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Jennifer’s Top 54 Self-Help Books

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I confess: I love self-help books. I would like to say that I read them for “work” since I am in the business of helping others. And yes, I do find nuggets and novels that I pass along to my clients and followers who have shared that it’s very helpful.

But I also read them for myself. I began my journey in the self-improvement world over 15 years ago, and was immediately taken by connecting the dots to my past, my present, and sometimes my future. I am still seduced by just the right words, thoughts and ideas that I discover on the paper.

In honor of my 54 years on October 26th, I share this list of my favorite 54 books…

Launch Yourself: Love What You Do

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Becoming an empty nester is a time when a parent’s child or children are flying the coop and leaving home, maybe for the first time beyond summer camps, school trips, family visits or extended vacations. These fantastic creatures are seeking their independence and moving on to higher learning, jobs, marriages or other living arrangements, and it can be both exciting and scary.

I can personally share that experiencing this rite of passage is conflicted. It can be a time of ecstatic joy and reclaimed freedom, as well as sadness, grief and loss. Sending off anything or anyone, much less our children can be bittersweet. There is an excitement of seeing children come into their own and their hard work coming to fruition by hopefully witnessing them being accepted into their college of choice or attaining their first great job.

If this applies to you, or someone close to you, you can give yourself permission to redefine life as you have known it and explore not only “what’s next?” but also “what could the best possible future look like?”

10 Ways Showing Compassion Can Lead to More Success at Work

Compassion is an emotion felt within ourselves and as a result, a desire to ease the pain and suffering of those around us is ignited. This interpersonal process involves the ability to notice, feel, or perceive another person’s pain and to be with or take action to help alleviate that person’s suffering.

Either way, suffering is suffering… I always say to my clients, each person’s suffering is as big to them as another person’s. There are many different ways to show compassion for others; however it MUST come from the heart. If we can meet suffering with loving-care and kindness, compassion will naturally arise.

Here are 10 ways showing compassion at work, and in life, can lead to more happiness and success.

Let Your Inner Light Shine

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As we enter the Holiday season, I think about what is sparkly, bright and shiny. I love to embrace all things glittery this time of year… flickering lights, dazzling jewels, festive clothing, shimmering stars, champagne bubbles, candlelight yoga, and even the twinkle of an eye. But most importantly, all of this shininess reminds me there is an even bigger year opportunity to let our own inner light shine.

When a person sparkles, they become alive and fully illuminated to a greater state of being. I often wonder where that glimmer comes from. What creates radiance, and how can one use their brilliance to be genuine with themselves and the world?

7 Ways to Build Your Personal Power

What makes a person powerful? Is it her money, fame, position, charisma, social status, or expertise? While some of these are strong characteristics, a true powerful person has the ability to use not only her external resources, but also activate her internal gifts and talents. Powerful people put their stakes in the ground on what they know to be real, and continue moving toward the greater good of self and others.

Do you feel powerful in your life? If not, why?

What Do You Bring to the Table?

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I love gathering around the table for meals. Whether it is a special occasion such as Thanksgiving, a dinner party with good friends, Sunday night family suppers or lunch with a friend…. I love the idea of “lunching” and “dinnering” for the sake of sharing a meal and having great conversation.

Communing starts with eating, drinking, telling stories, and then moves to sharing a part of ourselves and learning more about each other. It goes beyond just lunch or dinner…

Gratitude

Photo credit: Tess Thompson “Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” – Melody Beattie I am grateful for loving […]

Manners Matter

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Are you minding your manners? Are you saying “please” and “thank you;” sending hand-written thank you notes when people do something gracious for you; and being nice to the people around you? Are you being honorable, staying in integrity and being true to your word? I hope so because it seems to me that many people have either lost the art of etiquette, or were never taught it in the first place.

Make Space

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In thinking about space, my first thought was to write about cleaning out the clutter in your physical spaces; getting rid of the things and stuff that no longer work in order to make room for something else. Often when people want more, new, different or upgraded things, they believe they need to make space first, only to realize months or years later, they have simply accumulated more unwanted or useless material goods that are collecting dust and encumbering a room. The cycle continues, and another clean out is needed.

Space is most often perceived in the physical realm, but I believe there are other areas of life where clutter is held.

Uncover the Real You: 12 Ways to Take the Mask Off & Live Authentically

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Do you know who you really are, or do you hide behind a façade of selected masks and prescribed roles that have been handed to you by others? Do you reveal what is really important to you in the world, or simply shrink low when it is your turn to speak? Society regularly asks us to fit in and to follow the norms, but does it void your vibrancy and suppress your spirit? If so, you are not alone.