Go with the Flow

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“Nature often holds up a mirror so we can see more clearly the ongoing processes of growth, renewal and transformation in our lives.” – Mary Ann Bussat

Do you experience ease and flow in your life? Are you at peace with where your life is, or do you constantly worry, try to force the answers or attempt to control everything that comes your way? Do you enjoy the rhythm of your life, or are you stressed out, worried, anxious and constantly on the go, even when you don’t have to be?

Understanding your own natural rhythm, as well as the natural order of life, can bring not only more peaceful fluidity, but also moments of ecstasy and joy. Highs and lows convey recognition of what works, what does not work and how to choose more discerning life solutions. Consider the ups and downs of your life path – I suspect there have been happy, peak experiences as well as lonely, confusing disappointments.

No one is immune to difficult circumstances such as a personal illness, a paralyzing ice storm, a financial setback, the ending of a relationship, a difficult co-worker or the deceit of another. But it is in those challenging moments when there are transformational opportunities to trust, evolve and come back even stronger than before.

Anne Morrow Lindbergh wrote, “We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror at its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity – in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.”

Where does faith and freedom play a role in your life? Find your personal liberty by trusting yourself, following your creative energies, listening to your body and surrounding yourself with advocates. Find a higher faith that will sustain, ground and instill hope that all will be well and work out in the end of the roller coaster ride of life.

That life continues to happen and change is a certainty, so I encourage you to stop attempting to disrupt the natural flow of your life. A coaching exercise I use involves examining beliefs to see if they are empowering and can move you forward, or are limiting and holding you back. By becoming aware of where you might be stuck, you can start actively pursuing your own energetic flows to create more aliveness, connectivity, creativity and passion.

Thoughts that Keep You from “Being in the FLOW” – How to Turn Them Around:

Here are some possible limiting beliefs to let go of, and new empowering thoughts to create:


  1. FEAR into Trusting love
  2. Prescriptive expectations into Possibilities & openness
  3. Perfection into Balance & boundaries
  4. Controlling behaviors into Relinquishing outcomes
  5. Limiting beliefs into Inspired actions
  6. Mediocrity into Mastery
  7. Distracted clutter into Beauty
  8. Judgment of self & others into Full acceptance
  9. Self-consciousness into Vulnerably & dropping the mask
  10. Self-centeredness into Compassionate connections
  11. Headstrong reasoning into Fierce intuition
  12. Drama into Peaceful purpose & direction
  13. Anger into Motivating passion
  14. Caring what others think into Detachment
  15. Making assumptions into Clear communications
  16. Regrets into Positively trying again
  17. Guilt & shame into Endless gratitude & respect
  18. Failure into Resilient learning opportunities
  19. Doing it alone into Creative collaboration
  20. Powerlessness into Powerful choices

Don’t allow the spinning tales, made-up stories and unfounded fears hold you hostage in your life. Become consciously aware and be truthful about what is disrupting your life flow. Only then can you seek good intentions from the ebb and flow of what is given to you every day.

Coaching Questions to Create Flow and Fluidity in Your Life:

1. What is creating your reality today, and how is your fear paralyzing you? List EVERYTHING that scares you and ask yourself if it is really true or not

2. How have you withheld yourself from life?

3. From the above list, choose your biggest limiting belief; think about your behaviors associated with it and then consider the results. To turn it around, work backward by thinking about your desired result and desired behavior, and then create a new empowering principle.

4. Do you often choose to do things the hard way, or find ways to make everything easy, light or playful

5. What would a fluid life look like? Create your possibilities of a flowing vision for a day, a week, a month and a year.
Meet Jennifer: Life Coach, Inspirational Speaker and Author Jennifer M. Blair is founder of Excavive™ Coaching and Consulting, based in Louisville, Kentucky. Her work focuses on empowering people to pursue their passions, increase their self-confidence, communicate powerfully and build the kind of lives they want to live. If you love these Blog posts, many have been adapted from her first book, The True You: Tools to Excavate, Explore and Evolve, published in 2011.